Don’t be fooled… First impressions can make or break opportunities, it's crucial for men to understand how to enhance their natural attractiveness. Whether it's in love, career, or personal life, being more appealing can open doors you never thought possible. And there is such a thing as a positive bias for people who look good in all areas of society.
Besides, looking good also boosts your own confidence and how likely you’ll be to pursue opportunities in love and in life.
So here are five game-changing secrets every man should know to make himself more attractive.
1. The Power of Style
Your appearance is the first thing people notice. Clothes that accentuate your best features will give people the impression that you’re someone who takes time to look good and therefore someone who has a keen eye for detail. And as an added bonus, the ladies love it.
But how do I even start to do this?
I used to have the most atrocious fashion sense imaginable, so if I could figure it out anyone can. What I’ve found is it all comes down to a simple set of rules that aren’t hard to follow but that will change everything.
-Wear Clothes that Fit:
Some guys wear clothes that is too tight and makes them look like a sausage, especially if they aren’t fit. Others wear clothes that are too baggy and it makes them look like they are wearing a garbage bag (I used to fall under this category).
Wear clothes that fit you properly, not too tight, and not too loose, it makes a world of difference.
-Wear Complementary Colors:
Depending on your complexion certain colors will go well with your skin tone while others might make you look sick. Pay attention to this with a simple mirror check. Compare different colors to your skin tone and decide what colors go better with your skin tone.
If you have trouble deciding you can always bring in a third party perspective.
-Accessorize:
Small accessories can really make an outfit pop. Things like necklaces, bracelets, ties, tie clips, rings, glasses, or watches are always a good idea. However, it is possible to overdo it, so keep it simple. No more than 2 or 3 accessories per outfit. You really don’t want people to mistake you for Mr. T.
But don’t overthink it, your wardrobe is an extension of your personality so use items that make you feel good, and that you enjoy wearing because they make you feel good. Try things out and see what works best for you.
2. Fresh, Smooth, and Clean
Good grooming shows you care about yourself, which indirectly signals self-respect and confidence. Again, don’t overdo it, this can be as simple as a shower, a clean shave, and a fresh haircut. Again, it comes down to a series of simple rules you can follow to enhance your looks dramatically by following these steps.
-Take care of your hair:
For me it got really easy since the good lord decided to release me of the burden of having hair so I use clippers every week to cut the hair I do have and I have a fresh look all the time.
If you do have hair, you don’t have to be in the barber shop every day, just find a style that is professional and that you can create every day without using an entire pharmacy.
-Clean Shave:
Regardless of what style of facial hair you like, if any, if you’re rocking a beard like myself, it’s important to keep it straight and neat. Especially for those of us who have curly hair.
Clean up the edges and if you have a mustache, keep it out of your mouth to avoid things getting caught in it.
-Stay Minty Fresh:
Make sure to be aware of your breath, use proper hygiene, wear deodorant, and a nice cologne. I know someone this goes without saying but you’d be amazed how many guys skip it.
Again, don’t overdo it, my grandmother used to tell me that I smelled like a fine hooker every time I overdid it with the cologne. My rule of thumb is two sprays on the hand and then spread it on my neck and chest.
3. Fitness Beyond the Gym
It’s no secret that people who are fit are very attractive, not only because of how estetically pleasing their bodies might be, but because being healthy is attractive. Physical health is not just about looking good; it's about feeling good. A fit body exudes energy and vitality, which are inherently attractive.
Most people think about exercise and they immediately think of going to a gym.
And that may be great of some people but I don’t think the gym is for everyone…
Personally, I’ve always hated the gym, now I kind of like it, but I’d much rather do any other kind of exercise.
Don’t think that the gym is the only way to stay fit, any kind of physical activity can be of great benefit to your health and your overall attractiveness.
For me, it was martial arts, but you might like yoga, swimming, dancing, sports, or even hiking and all of them can improve your physique and mental health. Remember, the best form of exercise is the one you can do consistently.
4. Mastering the Art of Small Talk
Intelligence and wit are incredibly sexy. Being able to engage in meaningful conversation shows depth and interest in the world around you. Also, humor is a very attractive quality because it shows humility and intelligence.
Knowing how to have a good conversation is the key to network, make friends, and get dates.
And if an awkward introvert like me was able to figure it out, you can do it too.
Once again it comes down to a series of simple rules that you can follow to get your conversation skills on a whole new level.
-Get Them to Talk About Themselves:
Make an effort to learn about them, if you can get people to talk about the things they enjoy talking about, they will love you for it. For most people that’s their career, their families, or their hobbies. Show a genuine interest (don’t try to fake it) in these things and they will do most of the talking for you.
-Listen With Your Whole Body:
People will often give cues about what they think and feel with their facial expressions, their hand gestures, and their choice of words. Paying attention to not just what a person says but how they move and behave will give you a deeper understanding of that person.
Look for people’s body language, their tone of voice, their facial expressions, and even their breathing and you’ll start to get good at detecting how people respond to you so you can make adjustments.
-Smile Damn it! Smile!
You’d be amazed by how much better your conversations might go if you just smile. Even phone calls where the person can’t even see your face can change dramatically if you smile while on the phone. Don’t overdo it, you don’t want to look like a psycho, but a small smile can really make you seem more inviting and help people let their guard down around you.
I really recommend you check out the book “How to make friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie for a more in depth view of these concepts.
5. Embody Your Natural Confidence
Especially when it comes to dating confidence is magnetic, but there is a fine line between what some people consider confidence to be and arrogance. Arrogance is extremely off-putting and knowing the difference is key.
True confidence comes from knowing that you’re capable, that you’re worthy, and that you’re smart. Which is why I personally struggled with this for so long, because I didn’t feel capable, I didn’t feel worthy, or smart. Because I didn’t have the results, the accolades, the respect, or the admiration that would signal that I am any of those things. Maybe you feel the same way.
I always thought that I would feel confident once I got the results, when in fact I needed to feel confident in order to get the results.
I’ll explain…
Your confidence doesn’t come from your results, it comes from your belief in yourself, your level of belief in what you’re capable of and the truth is, your potential is endless. Confidence isn’t a thing, it’s a feeling, and as such it can be accessed at any moment if you believe in yourself enough.
True confidence is probably one of the most attractive qualities a man can have. Even if you don’t have a huge net worth, a social media following, or a famous name, you can get a lot done in this world with enough confidence.
Conclusion:
Becoming more attractive isn't about changing who you are but enhancing what you already have. These five secrets are not just about catching someone's eye but about building a life where you feel confident, healthy, and fulfilled. Remember, attraction is as much about how you feel about yourself as it is about how others perceive you. Start implementing these tips today, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never imagined.
Master your destiny
And make this an amazing day.
Yamil Senior
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